The Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet on Byron Katie's website (Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet) invites you to bring up to the surface the thoughts that you might be having about someone or something. Most of the time we bury our more bitter thoughts because we are ashamed of them. Yet, just because you won't let yourself think something like: "she's an irritating busy body" doesn't mean that you don't feel annoyed. The thought just becomes unconscious and continues to operate subliminally.
Byron Katie's worksheet tries to bring those unhappy thoughts to the surface. So when you fill out the worksheet, the more truthful you are about how you really feel, the faster you will be able to heal.
The second question on the worksheet asks: In this situation, how do you want them to change? What do you want them to do? You might answer this question this way: "I want my daughter to call me and tell me that she understands why I am upset. I want her to understand my side of things. I want her to forgive me."
My guess is that the part where you say, "I want her to understand my side of things." reflects a very strong belief that she doesn't understand your side. When I think someone doesn't understand my side of things, I feel very alone and sad. It can be a very lonely thought.
Tomorrow we will go through Katie's steps to reach a different perspective.
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